Our previous article, 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself, was well received by most of
our readers, but several of you suggested that we follow it up with a list of things to start
doing. In one reader’s words, “I would love to see you revisit each of these 30 principles,
but instead of presenting us with a ‘to-don’t’ list, present us with a ‘to-do’ list that we
all can start working on today, together.” Some folks, such as readers Danny Head and
Satori Agape, actually took it one step further and emailed us their own revised ‘to-do’
versions of the list.
So I sat down last night with our original article and the two reader’s revisions as a
guide, and a couple hours later finalized a new list of 30 things; which ended up being, I
think, a perfect complement to the original.
Here it is, a positive ‘to-do’ list for the upcoming year – 30 things to start doing for yourself:
Start spending time with
the right people.
These are the people you enjoy, who love
and appreciate you, and who encourage
you to improve in healthy and exciting
ways. They are the ones who make you
feel more alive, and not only embrace who
you are now, but also embrace and embody
who you want to be, unconditionally.
It isn’t your problems that define you, but
how you react to them and recover from
them. Problems will not disappear unless
you take action. Do what you can, when
you can, and acknowledge what you’ve
done. It’s all about taking baby steps in
the right direction, inch by inch. These
inches count, they add up to yards and
miles in the long run.
Be honest about what’s right, as well as
what needs to be changed. Be honest
Start facing your
2 problems head on.
Start being honest with
3 yourself about everything.
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Remember today, for it is the beginning.
Today marks the start of a brave new future.
about what you want to achieve and who
you want to become. Be honest with every
aspect of your life, always. Because you
are the one person you can forever count
on. Search your soul, for the truth, so that
you truly know who you are. Once you
do, you’ll have a better understanding of
where you are now and how you got here,
and you’ll be better equipped to identify
where you want to go and how to get there.
Your needs matter. If you don’t value
yourself, look out for yourself, and stick
up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself.
Remember, it IS possible to take care
of your own needs while simultaneously
caring for those around you. And once
your needs are met, you will likely be far
more capable of helping those who need
Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the
person you are. Be yourself. Embrace
that individual inside you that has ideas,
strengths and beauty like no one else. Be
the person you know yourself to be –
the best version of you – on your terms.
Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot
put your heart in it, take yourself out
Right now is a miracle. Right now is the
only moment guaranteed to you. Right
now is life. So stop thinking about how
great things will be in the future. Stop
dwelling on what did or didn’t happen
in the past. Learn to be in the ‘here and
now’ and experience life as it’s happening.
Appreciate the world for the beauty that it
holds, right now.
Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping
stones of progress. If you’re not failing
from time to time, you’re not trying hard
enough and you’re not learning. Take
risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and
try again. Appreciate that you are pushing
yourself, learning, growing and improving.
Significant achievements are almost
invariably realized at the end of a long
road of failures. One of the ‘mistakes’ you
fear might just be the link to your greatest
If you had a friend who spoke to you in
the same way that you sometimes speak
to yourself, how long would you allow that
person to be your friend? The way you
treat yourself sets the standard for others.
Start making your own
4 happiness a priority.
Start being yourself,
5 genuinely and proudly.
Start noticing and living
6 in the present.
Start valuing the lessons
7 your mistakes teach you.
Start being more polite to
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Start enjoying the things
9 you already have.
Start creating your own
Start giving your ideas
11 and dreams a chance.
Start believing that you’re
12 ready for the next step.
Start entering new
relationships for the right
You must love who you are or no one else
The problem with many of us is that we
think we’ll be happy when we reach a
certain level in life – a level we see others
operating at – your boss with her corner
office, that friend of a friend who owns a
mansion on the beach, etc. Unfortunately,
it takes awhile before you get there, and
when you get there you’ll likely have a new
destination in mind. You’ll end up spending
your whole life working toward something
new without ever stopping to enjoy
the things you have now. So take a quiet
moment every morning when you first
awake to appreciate where you are and
what you already have.
If you are waiting for someone else to
make you happy, you’re missing out.
Smile because you can. Choose happiness.
Be the change you want to see in the
world. Be happy with who you are now,
and let your positivity inspire your journey
into tomorrow. Happiness is often found
when and where you decide to seek it. If
you look for happiness within the opportunities
you have, you will eventually find it.
But if you constantly look for something
else, unfortunately, you’ll find that too.
In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance;
it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be
100% sure it will work, but you can always
be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work.
Most of the time you just have to go for it!
And no matter how it turns out, it always
ends up just the way it should be. Either
you succeed or you learn something. Win-
You are ready! Think about it. You have
everything you need right now to take
the next small, realistic step forward. So
embrace the opportunities that come your
way, and accept the challenges – they’re
gifts that will help you to grow.
Enter new relationships with dependable,
honest people who reflect the person you
are and the person you want to be. Choose
friends you are proud to know, people you
admire, who show you love and respect –
people who reciprocate your kindness and
commitment. And pay attention to what
people do, because a person’s actions are
much more important than their words or
how others represent them.
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It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every
friend you’ve ever made. People and priorities
change. As some relationships fade
others will grow. Appreciate the possibility
of new relationships as you naturally let
go of old ones that no longer work. Trust
your judgment. Embrace new relationships,
knowing that you are entering into
unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be
ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet
someone that might just change your life
Be inspired by others, appreciate others,
learn from others, but know that competing
against them is a waste of time. You
are in competition with one person and
one person only – yourself. You are competing
to be the best you can be. Aim to
break your own personal records.
Start noticing what you like about others
and tell them. Having an appreciation for
how amazing the people around you are
leads to good places – productive, fulfilling,
peaceful places. So be happy for those
who are making progress. Cheer for their
victories. Be thankful for their blessings,
openly. What goes around comes around,
and sooner or later the people you’re
cheering for will start cheering for you.
When things are hard, and you feel down,
take a few deep breaths and look for the
silver lining – the small glimmers of hope.
Remind yourself that you can and will
grow stronger from these hard times. And
remain conscious of your blessings and
victories – all the things in your life that
are right. Focus on what you have, not on
what you haven’t.
We’ve all been hurt by our own decisions
and by others. And while the pain of
these experiences is normal, sometimes
it lingers for too long. We relive the pain
over and over and have a hard time letting
go. Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t
mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting
what happened. It means you’re letting go
of the resentment and pain, and instead
choosing to learn from the incident and
move on with your life.
Care about people. Guide them if you
know a better way. The more you help
others, the more they will want to help
you. Love and kindness begets love and
kindness. And so on and so forth.
Start giving new people
14 you meet a chance.
Start competing against
an earlier version of
Start cheering for other
16 people’s victories.
Start looking for the silver
17 lining in tough situations.
Start forgiving yourself
18 and others.
Start helping those
19 around you.
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Remember, ‘perfect’ is the enemy of ‘good.’
One of the biggest challenges for people
who want to improve themselves and
improve the world is learning to accept
things as they are. Sometimes it’s better
to accept and appreciate the world as it is,
and people as they are, rather than trying
to make everything and everyone conform
to an impossible ideal. No, you shouldn’t
accept a life of mediocrity, but learn to love
and value things when they are less than
Remember, the journey of a thousand
miles begins with one step. Whatever it is
you dream about, start taking small, logical
steps every day to make it happen. Get
out there and DO something! The harder
you work the luckier you will become.
While many of us decide at some point
during the course of our lives that we want
to answer our calling, only an astute few of
us actually work on it. By ‘working on it,’ I
mean consistently devoting oneself to the
If you’re hurting, give yourself the necessary
space and time to hurt, but be open
If it helps, discuss your ideas with those
closest to you, but give yourself enough
room to follow your own intuition. Be true
to yourself. Say what you need to say. Do
what you know in your heart is right.
Slow down. Breathe. Give yourself permission
to pause, regroup and move
forward with clarity and purpose. When
you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can
rejuvenate your mind and increase your
productivity. These short breaks will help
you regain your sanity and reflect on your
recent actions so you can be sure they’re in
line with your goals.
Instead of waiting for the big things to
happen – marriage, kids, big promotion,
winning the lottery – find happiness in the
small things that happen every day. Little
things like having a quiet cup of coffee in
the early morning, or the delicious taste
and smell of a homemade meal, or the
pleasure of sharing something you enjoy
with someone else, or holding hands with
your partner. Noticing these small pleasures
on a daily basis makes a big difference
in the quality of your life.
Start noticing the beauty
22 of small moments.
Start accepting things
when they are less than
Start working toward
your goals every single
Start being more open
25 about how you feel.
Start being attentive to
your stress level and take
Start listening to your
20 own inner voice.
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You can’t change everything, but you can
always change something. Wasting your
time, talent and emotional energy on
things that are beyond your control is a
recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation.
Invest your energy in the things you
can control, and act on them now.
The mind must believe it CAN do something
before it is capable of actually doing
it. The way to overcome negative thoughts
and destructive emotions is to develop opposing,
positive emotions that are stronger
and more powerful. Listen to your
self-talk and replace negative thoughts
with positive ones. Regardless of how a
situation seems, focus on what you DO
WANT to happen, and then take the next
positive step forward. No, you can’t control
everything that happens to you, but
you can control how you react to things.
Everyone’s life has positive and negative
aspects – whether or not you’re happy and
successful in the long run depends greatly
on which aspects you focus on.
Henry David Thoreau once said, “Wealth
is the ability to fully experience life.” Even
about it. Talk to those closest to you. Tell
them the truth about how you feel. Let
them listen. The simple act of getting
things off your chest and into the open is
your first step toward feeling good again.
Own your choices and mistakes, and
be willing to take the necessary steps to
improve upon them. Either you take accountability
for your life or someone else
will. And when they do, you’ll become a
slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a
pioneer of your own. You are the only one
who can directly control the outcome of
your life. And no, it won’t always be easy.
Every person has a stack of obstacles in
front of them. But you must take accountability
for your situation and overcome
these obstacles. Choosing not to is choosing
a lifetime of mere existence.
Bring real, honest joy into your life and
the lives of those you love by simply telling
them how much they mean to you on
a regular basis. You can’t be everything to
everyone, but you can be everything to a
few people. Decide who these people are
in your life and treat them like royalty. Remember,
you don’t need a certain number
of friends, just a number of friends you can
be certain of.
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bility for your own life.
Start actively nurturing
your most important
Start concentrating on the
28 things you can control.
Start focusing on the possibility
of positive outcomes.
Start noticing how
wealthy you are right
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when times are tough, it’s always important
to keep things in perspective. You
didn’t go to sleep hungry last night. You
didn’t go to sleep outside. You had a
choice of what clothes to wear this morning.
You hardly broke a sweat today. You
didn’t spend a minute in fear. You have
access to clean drinking water. You have
access to medical care. You have access to
the Internet. You can read. Some might
say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember
to be grateful for all the things you do
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Doing for Yourself
Start spending time with the right
Start facing your problems head on.
Start being honest with yourself
Start making your own happiness a
Start being yourself, genuinely and
Start noticing and living in the present.
Start valuing the lessons your
mistakes teach you.
Start being more polite to yourself.
Start enjoying the things you
Start creating your own happiness.
Start giving your ideas and dreams
Start believing that you’re ready for
the next step.
Start entering new relationships for
the right reasons.
Start giving new people you meet a
Start competing against an earlier
version of yourself.
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Start cheering for other people’s
Start looking for the silver lining in
Start forgiving yourself and others.
Start helping those around you.
Start listening to your own inner voice.
Start being attentive to your stress
level and take short breaks.
Start noticing the beauty of small
Start accepting things when they
are less than perfect.
Start working toward your goals every
Start being more open about how
Start taking full accountability for your
Start actively nurturing your most
Start concentrating on the things you
Start focusing on the possibility of
Start noticing how wealthy you are